Sunday, March 29, 2015

New Normal




-->We are adjusting to our “new normal”.  Sleep is not our issue.  Theo is a great sleeper and everyone has adjusted from the jet lag. 

My sweet Nora has struggled with some intense jealousy.  Poor thing was already a screamer before I left well multiply that by 10 (I have lost my voice from trying to talk to her).  She was already a hot mess before I left well multiply that by 20.  Pray for her.  We have been very intentional with her.  Having special daughter mommy time, taking walks, ice cream, but she still seems to need more.  More of me than I can give.  I sometimes feel like this may last forever.  I love her.  She is hard but I love her so much and it hurts my heart to see her desperate for my attention. 



Mommy and Nora walk...MUST be in tinkerbell PJs
John is so good with the kids.  What would i do without him??!!



Theo is doing great.  He has been a trooper with all the doctor appointments.  Friday we went to the hospital to have his head xrayed and ultrasound of his brain.  His head is very misshapen from months of laying in a crib.  The doctor isn’t too concerned but wants to see if he could benefit from a helmet to help reshape the skull. 

Theo is getting used to being outside.  He is not a fan of the grass so he stays in the wagon! 

 
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He loves to be held…..ALL THE TIME.  The moment I put him down he cries and tries to lay down on his back.  His poor little muscles just aren’t used to sitting.  We are trying to build his leg strength with the jumper/saucer.  Nora loves to help.  Because of Nora’s intense jealously I have been wearing her in the Ergo carrier and putting the boys in the stroller.  Theo seems to be ok with this set up. 



 
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Theo is 13 months old.  Most infants start solid foods between 4-6 months.  Well poor Theo started 2 weeks ago.  HE LOVES BABY FOOD!  So much so that I have had to start cutting him back.  He eats about 6 jars of baby food per day.  This is down from the 8 or 9 he was eating when I let him eat til he was full.  I have cut down on his bottle and slowly started introducing a sippy cup. I hope to have him completely off formula in 3 months.  I have to set goals just to work toward them not set in stone.   


Don't let those scars fool you!  I am one happy boy!








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Next week we will have someone come to the house to evaluate him for physical therapy, and Speech.  At this point he is developmentally around 7 months old.  Physically he can sit, and crawl.  As of 2 days ago I can stand him up and he will now put his feet flat on the ground.  He is still not able to bear much weight.  I pray with PT and lots of play time with siblings we can have him walking by Christmas.  I will say when that day comes my back will be VERY happy!  He is a heavy 26lbs.  
He is such a LOVE!

Thanks for all the emails and messages asking for updates!  It is so encouraging knowing that people are truly interested in Theo's story.  We still stand in awe of how God has brought this little one into our lives.  It is pretty crazy with a 1, 2 and 3 year old but we know one day they will be 21, 22, and 23 and screaming fits will be long gone and we will have other obstacles to cross.  But most of all we pray that they will have a heart for the Lord.

Friday, March 20, 2015

China Trip Day 14 - 3/18 - The long trip home


China Trip Day 14 – 3/18 to 3/19 – The long trip home!

The past two days have been crazy. Let’s be honest, the past two weeks have been a little crazy. So to recap, we will give you the rundown from travel day to arriving home to Theo’s cardiac appointment.

We woke up early on the 18th in Hong Kong and packed everything up, fed Theo his bottle and checked out of our hotel. Ah, last day for the need to brush our teeth with bottled water! On the way to the terminal (because the hotel was connected to the airport and within walking distance) we ran into one of our good friends and were able to say goodbye for the last time. Although, maybe there is a trip to Disney World in their future?
Boeing 737 Taking us home!

At the airport, we found out our flight was delayed an hour due to crew availability… oh boy. Would we be able to make our connection in Newark? We scrambled to the gate to start asking questions and Laura was fortunate enough to see one of the pilots at the gate and talk with him about the time it would take to get through immigration in NJ. Not good. Add this time to the time it would take to get our checked luggage in hand and re-check, go through security again, and race to the gate… he said it was better to change to a later flight.
Laura handling the news
Later flight?? Didn’t he realize we were meeting friends and family at the Orlando airport? Couldn’t United hold the plane if we were a few minutes late? We had to try. And Theo didn't seem to mind that we would be in a rush.
Theo wondering what is going on...
Theo was great on the 15 hour flight from Hong Kong to Newark. Laura and I were a bit restless and continued to check the arrival time/ gates/ and keep our carry-on bags by our side for most of the trip. We had purchased an extra seat, so there was plenty of room for the three of us to stretch out from time to time. We each got a few hours of sleep between watching movies and keeping Theo entertained. Before we knew it, the captain had announced that we were making our decent.
Once the plane landed, Laura grabbed Theo and I grabbed the bags. We took off running towards customs, which in Newark is not a short run. The whole time we were talking with them, we kept saying “we are in a hurry, we need to catch our flight”, so we got an escort down to immigration for Theo. This area was right in front of the baggage claim and we kept checking over our shoulder for our bags to arrive. After the green light that we were good to go, Laura raced forward to the next security checkpoint while I waited for the bags. Longest wait of my life.
Our bags finally arrived and we were pushing time, so I ran towards the security checkpoint with my now 4 bags. I thought since they were small enough, and we had 3 seats, they would easily be able to fit under the seat in front of us or in the overhead. For any travelers, you know this is a problem. Only 2 carry-ons per person. So they wouldn’t let me through the checkpoint. Panic. I ran back down to try and check the bags, and finally back up to go though security again.
After what felt like an eternity, I ran back to the gate (felt like a mile) only to find that the gate had been switched somewhere between taking off my shoes and doing my best to keep my pants up while running to the gate with no belt.
Without her cell phone, it was impossible to know if Laura had made the flight or had been able to hold the plane for me like we planned. So I started running to the new gate (felt like 2 miles). Half way there, and with my heart beating out of my chest, my phone started ringing… it was a NJ number, and I stopped running.
Laura informed me that we missed the flight and a cart was coming to pick us up because our newly scheduled flight was departing from the other side of the airport. We had some choice words with the United staff about the inconvenience of running across the airport several times, and worked out a couple of meal vouchers since we would now be delayed arriving in Orlando until 9:00pm. Both sweating, we toured Newark from a golf cart.
You would think I was lying if I told you that our departing gate was changed 2 more times… but I’m not.  We rode back and forth through the Newark airport listening to the golf cart driver say “beep beep, coming through” for the next 30 minutes. We almost didn’t have time to rest before boarding the next flight.
3 hours later and we were landing in Orlando. Finally! After making our way to the  unsecured side of the main terminal, we could see two little children holding huge welcome home signs, and all our troubles from the day were instantly gone. Laura was wearing Theo at this point and we both went running up to Everett and Nora. In fact, we had a whole section of people supporting us when we finally looked up from our kids. It was so great having some of our closest friends around us during this exciting moment in our lives.
Our welcome committee
After giving everyone a chance to see Theo for the first time, we all went our separate ways. I can only imagine how tired people were from waiting at the airport for us since our flight was delayed, but it was so special for us. We loaded up the kids into our mini-van and took off for home.

Everett letting Theo know the rules of the stroller. Nora does not seem interested.
It was so nice pulling into the driveway after two weeks. We spent the evening (because we were still on China time) talking about the trip with Laura’s parents. We told them all about meeting Theo’s caretakers and his finding spot, they told us all about Everett and Nora’s activities for the past two weeks.
The next morning we had a cardiac appointment in Orlando and asked Everett if he wanted to come along for Theo’s “heart boo boo” appointment. He was very excited to come along. The doctors couldn’t believe that Theo had his full repair in China with the type of scar he has on his chest, but after reviewing the ultrasound images and listening to his heart, they were amazed to say that his full repair was complete, and barring any major issues, he shouldn’t need another surgery for another 5-10 years. Talk about an answer to prayer. We are all very happy hearing this news. Coming home, we were prepared for anything. If he needed to have surgery immediately, if he had a bad surgery performed in China, or if there were other things going on that may not have been listed in his previous charts. There is still a question about his head shape and size, we are still considering seeing a urologist to perform a circumcision, and we need to get blood drawn, stool samples, and immunizations evaluated/given over the next few months.
 

Taking Theo's blood pressure

Getting relaxed for the ultrasound

Dr. listening to Theo's heart

Regardless of where the Lord takes us from here, I think it’s safe to say that our daily blogging days are over for now. We have said this a lot over the past two weeks, that we are extremely thankful for everyone who supported us, prayed for us, cried with us, and followed us along this journey. Of course, we will still update our blog from time to time with pictures and stories from the happenings of our lives.  But for now, we love you all and are excited to start this chapter of our lives as a family of 5, especially Nora.
Needing a bigger chair
 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

China Trip Day 13 - 3/17 - Good news on a memorable day

China Trip Day 13 – 3/17 – Good news on a memorable day

Today we thought we didn’t have much to do since our consulate appointment had been rescheduled to 1:00pm, therefore we leisurely got up and headed to the hotel diner for breakfast. Upon walking in we ran into our guide. She quickly said hello and “be ready in 30 minutes, we are leaving for the consulate because the system is back up and working I think”. I looked at John and told him grab me a croissant and I am running to the room to pull all the paper work, bottles, Theo’s food and diaper bag together. It was a crazy 30 minutes but we pulled it together... the entire group of 15 families pulled it together too! We were all on a greyhound bus headed for the consulate AGAIN and praying for a better out come than yesterday. I thought I was smart today by packing a duffle bag instead of a back pack since yesterday they would only let diaper bags in. Well, guess that security lady really didn’t like me. She said no to my duffle bag today also. At that point I almost lost it. I think she could see the first burning in my eyes and as John pleaded with her, she gave in and let me take the duffle bag despite it not looking like a diaper bag. Phew.

Once we arrived back to the 2nd floor in the adoption consulate room it was crazy. Their were twice as many families due to combining yesterday’s and today’s appointments. It was very loud with tons of crying children and we could barley hear our number called. They called us into a room, looked through all of our documents, took one look at our now snoring Theo on my chest and then asked us to take an oath. It was not terribly intimidating but made me nervous knowing that all that paper work over the past year, (hours and hours and weeks of my life) all boiled down to this exact moment.



View inside the consulate

I am very excited and happy to say that the consulate came through and issued our visas within a few hours so we would not miss our departure from Hong Kong. Thank you for all of your prayers!



Theo’s Passport, Visa, and Adoption Certificate

Once we got back to the hotel we quickly packed up everything and headed to Hong Kong by van. We were able to ride with our friends the Richardsons, and even though John was getting car sick from being in the front of the van while trying to fill out entry and exit forms for China and Hong Kong. It’s a little trickier since in Hong Kong the steering wheel is on the other side of the vehicle. It was about a 3 hour drive and we had to go through border patrol when entering Hong Kong. It was a bit nerve racking because they scanned everyone in the van’s forehead checking for fevers. I had cranked the AC right before we got there in anticipation for the possible “fever” check. John is typically a furnace so I made him take some ibuprofen just in case. We all passed and made it safely to the airport hotel in Hong Kong. Phew….what a day.



China Customs - Checkpoint

As we received Theo’s visa today I smiled because it is also exactly the same day Theo was abandoned one year ago! March 17, 2014. It was also the same day he was found by the amazing couple we met last week, and one year later it is the day his visa was issued to become a United States Citizen. God continues to show us his providence through this trip. We continue to pray for peace for Theo’s birth mother, where ever she is. Maybe someone will tell her the story of two Americans coming to the market in Jinan with a baby who was found there last year…



Theo spending his last night in Asia (for a while)

As our trip comes to a close, we are so thankful for all of our guides getting us this far. China is in the rear-view mirror and many memories and friends were made. It will be sad to say good bye to the Richardsons tomorrow, but also such a relief to be headed back to the USA. We cannot wait to introduce Theo to his brother and sister!

Monday, March 16, 2015

China Trip Day 12 – 3/15/16 – Consulate Appointment Woes


Today we woke up early for our U.S Consulate appointment. Theo was dressed to impress in his Red, White, and Blue. We were nervous about the documents that were supposed to be sent express mail last night. We had a light breakfast and met the rest of our group (those with consulate appointments today) in the hotel lobby. Everyone was nervous as our guide passed out folders containing information regarding the consulate appointment. When she came to us, “good news, your documents arrived late last night and you are ok.” Phew… An answer to prayer! “but… (our hearts sinking) two of the families did not sign one of the other papers required. I think this may be a problem for them.” Good grief we thought. Could it get any worse? Just as we are about to take the last step needed to bring our children home, more issues?


Theo at breakfast


After confirming that we were not one of the families with a missing signature, we boarded the bus headed for the consulate. Unfortunately one of our close friends on the trip, who have had a tough time with their adoptive daughter’s health (coughing and fever), were one of the couples missing a signature. They have had it rough this trip, and the bad news keeps coming their way. If not for their strong faith in Christ, they would be a wreck I think.

Outside the consulate, they decided to press on and hope that this form would not stop the process for the day. Maybe the department could start on some of the paperwork while the rest was sorted out over the next day or so. We were all praying this would be the case.



Outside the Consulate



Line to get into the Consulate


There were hundreds of Chinese citizens waiting in line for a visa appointment. Some on benches, others crowding the entrance gate. We were not allowed to bring our cameras, but we did try to catch a few photos on our phone. Our guide took us straight up to the front of the line, said something to the guard, and we all were allowed to bring our babies through the masses. At the next line, our guide explained that she could not come with us but gave us directions to the 2nd floor, window 7 for all adoptive family visas. Luckily, we had scheduled appointments for each family, and were able to bypass this line as well, as the guard looked over our passports and found our names on the 8:30am appointment list.

Once inside for the security screening, I will admit, Laura and I had a bit of a tussle. All of our baby supplies for the next 3 hours were in my backpack, and guess what… no backpacks allowed. We sorted through as fast as we could to pull out all the necessities as Laura made a case to the guard that this was all important to bring through and that it made no sense to bring everything in the backpack inside, but not the backpack. I was just willing to do whatever they wanted to let us through… hence the “tussle”. Someone from behind us whipped out a plastic bag, and after loading it up, we were through.

Once inside, now a bit frustrated, I pressed on to the door pointed out by our guide while we were walking up to the building while Laura followed. Don’t worry, we quickly made up J. On the 2nd floor, we could immediately tell something was wrong as we stepped off the elevator. A man working for the Department of State had a group of adoptive families sitting down and was reading them something from a small piece of paper.

“Unfortunately, we are experiencing computer system issues, and are unable to process any visa applications at this time. We have rescheduled your appointment for 1:00pm tomorrow. We are doing everything we can to resolve this issue as quickly as possible.”

WHAT??!? I could tell that Laura was seeing red. For any of you that know us, this is a bad thing for the person responsible.

The next few minutes were literally a blur, the man and now a woman from the Department of State, with fresh coffee tumbler and a piece of paper gave us no more information than what was written on the piece of paper. I am surprised no one threatened him, due to his smug smile and continuous reading of the piece of paper when asked for any more insight by everyone who came off the elevator. I know they realize the inconvenience for all of our families. The possibility of an extra night’s hotel stay, a missed flight, or loss of deposit for another travel arrangement. But do they really understand? What about our jobs, the people watching our children at home, the medical appointments we have with various doctors in the U.S. Do they think of these things? Luckily, they did allow us to hand over a photograph and a copy of Theo’s passport at window number 7, which they claimed would start the process even without the computer system.

We left feeling defeated.

Our guide took us all back to the hotel, and we spent the next few hours trying to sort things out. What should we do? Do we cancel our hotel in Hong Kong for tomorrow night? Will the State Department be able to process our child’s visa within a few hours, or is this a 24 hour process? Should we call the travel agency or let our agency explore the options for us? Our guide asked us all to meet in the hotel lobby at 5:00pm to discuss the options and take a group photo.

We spent the rest of the day taking a trip to the park across the street and visiting the 5 Ram Statue. Laura went for a workout to relieve some stress, while Theo and I took a nap (he is already a boy after my heart). We met up with Laura’s Etsy friend Mallory, her husband, their son, and newly adopted daughter Norah. It was a nice reunion, but with all the action from the day, short lived. They are kind, loving and encouraging. We wish there was more time we could spend with them on this trip, but our hearts are back home right now. Maybe tomorrow we will be able to spend more time with them.


Five Ram Statue (yes we counted 5)


Laura and her friend Mallory with Theo and Norah


Bethany March 2015 China Families


Our group photos in the lobby were not as joyful as they could have been, but there are many encouraging families on this trip. We have all had time to bond in our own ways. God keeps reminding us through other families that things could be more stressful, more discouraging, more difficult. Our child is healthy. His personality and physical traits match his diagnosis on the referral. Some families have not had the same outcome. We continue to pray throughout this trip for all of our new friends. It is obvious that we are all ready to get home.

The plan for tomorrow is to wait and see. The first group leaves for the Consulate at 9:00am. This is when we will find out what our options are and have to make some decisions. Jokingly, we credited the issues today to Hillary Clinton’s email account. Seriously, we are praying that this slight timeframe extension helps our friends get the signed paperwork here before their appointment. Please pray specifically that the United States will resolve the computer system issues at the State Department and issue Theo’s visa before close of business tomorrow.
 

Sunday, March 15, 2015

China Trip Day 11 – 3/15/15

China Trip Day 11 – 3/15/15

Today was another free day while we wait for our U.S. Consulate appointment. Our appointment is scheduled for tomorrow morning at 8:30am. As we write this blog, we are still missing one notarized form that is somewhere in the “express mail” world of China. We are praying that the forms get here before tomorrow morning…

We took a group this morning to Shamian Island in Guangzhou. The weather in Guangzhou is very much like Florida, and our skin is feeling much better from the humidity. Theo, not being used to the humidity, is sweating every time we go outside… poor guy.

At the island we had some time for shopping, negotiating with the store owners, we visited a bi-lingual church and heard a great message titled “Faith comes from Hearing” which was very biblical. Laura wanted to stand up and shout out “preach it!” but we thought this might be too odd for the locals and possibly draw more attention to our already head turning presence. We then had lunch at a restaurant called Lucy’s (still on Shamian Island) with our entire Bethany group before coming back to the hotel for a rest and Theo’s nap. Not much to say about today, only that we are resting up for our appointment and ready to get back home with our little man.

We will also get to finally meet Laura’s Etsy friend, Mallory, tomorrow and their daughter Norah. She is the woman who Laura contacted for a print about orphan care, the woman who designed the logos for our fundraiser shirts, and is also adopting a special needs child from China. It is sure to be a neat reunion for the two, who have never actually met in person, but share an amazing adoption story.

Here are some picture updates from today:


Walking over the moat to Shamian Island


Store owner who Laura successfully negotiated with


Theo and Daddy in front of some statues


Outside the Church – Message was being broadcasted throughout the streets in both Chinese and English


Ready for lunch at Lucy’s


Along the riverfront


Theo with the fish tank at dinner

Saturday, March 14, 2015

China Trip Day 10 – 3/14/15

China Trip Day 10 – 3/14/15

What a day! We started this morning going to Theo’s Medical exam to get clearance before our consulate appointment on Monday. His paperwork from his original referral must match his exam. So we loaded the bus Theo’s Chinese passport in hand and headed to the medical appointment. In America when someone tells me we have an “appointment” I just assume I am the only one with that same appointment…..well not in China! We showed up to a lobby filled with American ergo carrying Chinese babies. It was truly incredible. I was a little overwhelmed/ overcome with joy/saddened all at the same time. To think these were all orphans, abandoned and now all have forever families. I pray for the motives of all the families. I pray their desire to give an orphan a home is similar to ours.


On our way to the health appointment with Theo’s passport


Waiting area for the exams

So the medical exam is 3 separate rooms; one for temperature and vitals, one for ENT, and one for “general medical exam”. It is first come first serve so it is hurry-hurry wait-wait kind of mentality. We went to vitals and ENT first with no issues. Then we went into the “general” medical exam, after waiting about 1 hour. The doctor (female) was very friendly. She spoke little to no English. She began asking me basic questions about his condition and his medications. She than asked me to undress him. When I took off his shirt she acted surprised. She pointed to his sternum and drew her finger down, as if to ask where his scar from “open heart surgery” was. My brain went into overdrive. You have to remember we got very minimal paperwork on Theo’s heart condition. We know he has Tetralogy of Fallot and he was in the hospital for 2 months Nov and Dec 2014. Of those 2 months we were told he has “total correction” of his heart defect on a brief 1 page discharge report. We know that he was at a military Cardiac hospital and not the normal children’s hospital. And other than that we have no idea. So when this doctor started pointing and asking me about every detailed scar on my body I used my basic medical background to pull us through. Theo has 5 scars, one neck scar (from his central line), 2 small chest scars (from what I can only assume was laparoscopic heart surgery), 1 side scar (from his chest tube) and one groin scar that appears older than the rest (what I assume was from a cardiac cath when he was first abandoned for diagnosis). I began explaining this to the doctor and she looked at me as if I had 5 heads. She quickly ran out and got another doctor to come look. I explained again pointing to each scar. In my mind I kept thinking she didn’t believe me but then she stated, through an interpreter, that this is the first laparoscopic repair she has ever seen in china on an orphan. God continues to confirm that Theo is defying the odds. It is purely a miracle what we have learned and continue to learn about this little boy. I have no doubt that God has great plans for this little boy and we are so grateful and humbled He has chosen us to be Theo’s parents.

 
ENT Doctor


Getting ready for full body exam


Dr. Listening to Theo’s heart


Playing on the bus… no car seat…

After a very stressful morning we had some much needed rest time and met up with a dear friend Truman. So many of you might remember me blogging about a chinese woman, Nancy, who I met at church last fall. She is a beautiful young chinese woman who had moved to American with her 15 year old son. Since our meeting last fall Nancy and I have spent a lot of time together. She has taught me about chinese culture and invited us all over to celebrate chinese new years. Her husband Truman lives in China where he runs a software company. And guess where their China residence is… Guangzhou. Where we are right now! Crazy right?! I know just so much craziness in this adoption story. Truman picked John, Theo and I up for dinner tonight and took us to a lovely dinner (north-west China style) with a few of his “colleagues”. We had a wonderful time and we made for some great dinner conversations for everyone else in the resturant.


Truman, Laura and Theo


Laura enjoying some sheep… North-West China style.


Group pictures after dinner with Truman’s Colleagues

Friday, March 13, 2015

China Trip Day 9 – 3/13/15 – Moving Day

Today we had some more free time until 12:30pm when we were to be picked up at the hotel by John our guide. Theo, Laura and I started out early and had our usual breakfast… a fried egg (both sides), bacon, toast, sausage link, and a pancake, cup of coffee and a chocolate croissant. You might be thinking… lame for not trying all of the other international options, but to date we are the only couple without stomach issues. Talk about an answer to prayer! We had a close call at the zoo after the (smelly) hippo exhibit, but we were able to reign it in.


Typical Breakfast – Hyatt Jinan

After breakfast, we said goodbye to some of the hostesses and walked over to Starbucks only to find the doors locked at 8:00am. The barista came and unlocked the door and we all had a good laugh about how in the United States, some Starbucks open before 5:00am. 15 minutes later she was ready to take our order…


Hostess who loved “Hui Hui” – Theo’s Chinese name

We walked back to the hotel and spent the next 3 ½ hours putting Theo down for his morning nap and packing up the rest of our luggage. He slept great last night after we covered him with a heavy duvet. Although we would never do this in the U.S., he has been used to being covered by such a heavy blanket for his whole life and it really helped him sleep through the night. He must have been cold the past the nights.

We met John in the lobby and he loaded us all up into the van. First stop, the Entry and Exit office of Jinan to pick up Theo’s passport. Laura stayed in the van with Theo while I went in with all the paperwork, and all the other men. My experience so far has been that she is way more prepared than I am in understanding all the paperwork for this trip, but somehow the guys made it through and appeared with each child’s passport. A Chinese passport of course!


Jinan’s Airport

We arrived at the Jinan airport a little after 2:00pm and said our goodbyes to both John and our driver. Each was presented a gift and a specified amount for a tip. John continued to take us through the ticket counter and up through security. He really did a great job and he will be missed for his sense of humor, sometimes scattered brained-ness, and ability to see us through one of the longest/best days of our lives (meeting Theo).

Some of his last words to us were “oh, I forgot to tell you that your seats are not together… but don’t worry, I’m sure someone will switch if you ask them. Chinese people will probably do that for you… bye – bye”.


The ladies and their babies

After we get through security and board the plane, which is full, I approach the man sitting on the window side of Laura with my google translate app in hand. I’m wearing Theo in the carrier at this point and he agrees to switch with me! Great. Or at least we thought. Once he saw that I was sitting in the middle seat for the opposite row, he quickly changed his mind and went back to his original seat… fail.

So I just went back and sat in my original seat hoping that whoever sat next to me would be willing to switch with Laura. More and more people kept filling the plane, but no one was sitting next to me yet. A man came to my row and motioned to the window. He seemed nice and I let him through. Theo’s feet were jabbing him in the side, but when I asked him if he needed anymore room, he declined. Those were the last words we exchanged for the rest of the flight.

The door to the cabin shut. Victory! No one sitting on my left yet, so I motioned to Laura and over she came. Talk about a God thing. There is no way I could have handled two non-english speaking passengers in my ribs and a 1 year old on my lap for the 3 hour flight. Praise His name.


La and Theo at security

After turning many heads with screaming children on our flight, we all made it safely to Guangzhou. We met an airport concierge who led us to our van, and checked into our hotel tonight around 9:00pm.


After a long flight of stares and screaming children

Laura took the lead with Theo while I went out for some McDonalds and our next few day’s supply of drinking water. We did run into another couple who was with us in Beijing and got to see their little boy with a cleft lip (repaired) and cleft pallet (not repaired). They have been in Guangzhou since leaving Beijing.

About the same time I did overhear another woman talking about another high profile adoption agency (not ours) and saying that she was disappointed with how they operated or “catered” to their needs. I talked with Laura about this over a cheeseburger and a bottle of water. It’s going to be a strange feeling tomorrow morning during breakfast when we look around and see many other couples/families with their first/new child. Many American’s holding their new Chinese child. Feeding them, hugging them, kissing them. Comments like the one I heard tonight makes us question other people’s motives. We agree that we don’t truly know everyone’s motives for adopting, but hope that we have been straight forward with everyone reading this blog, others in our group, and even with our own family.

We are not doing this for an experience, we are not doing this to make our Christmas card look cute, we did not decide to adopt an orphaned child so we could feel better about ourselves. We chose to adopt because EVERY child deserves a mother and a father, EVERY child deserves a loving home and someone to stand-up on their behalf, and EVERY child deserves to have that loved sized hole in their heart filled. We chose to adopt because no matter how different we look or act in God’s eyes, He still sent his Son to bring us back into his love. Even when we were lost and off on our own, God brought us back into his family, where we belong. He chose to fill that God sized hole in our hearts with his love, even though some people still don’t realize it’s there.